Honestly, for most of you males at EMHS the issue of finding and actually asking a date to Banquet can be quite terrifying and incredibly embarrassing when the whole school knows exactly who you're going to ask. Now, I understand many of you have already asked a girl to Banquet but even if you have a date the information that follows can be applied in many life situations. First off, chill out. Girls aren't going to bite you; well, maybe some of them will but the majority won't, and they certainly don't have cooties, contrary to the popular elementary and sometime middle school belief. There are many ways to almost ensure yourself a date to Banquet; most ways involving the little miracle known to man as “chocolate.”
Here are a few ideas that are simple and don't take to much planning on your part and will definitely cut down your already sky-high levels of stress when thinking about this rather, to be honest, daunting task. First off her locker is a great way to grab her attention. Simply place a note inside the locker asking if she would like to have coffee or something after school. Insiders note: flowery language is always appreciated by the female gender. The one obvious issue with this idea is if the locker is unbelievably cluttered with books, or dirty. If this is the case ask her face to face, it's simple and easy. Set up a time where the two of you will be relatively alone, without the threat of those annoying friends jumping, uninvited, into your conversation with her. Remember this: if you don't make it awkward the likelihood of her feeling awkward or uncomfortable is greatly decreased, upping your chances of success.
Okay, let's review: Say it with a simple note. Leave a cute little note in her locker which has a request from you asking her to banquet. Along with the note highly consider leaving a box of heart shaped chocolates.
Guys, if you haven't already noticed, girls talk about Banquet all the time and know exactly who they want to go with. I would estimate that 1 out of every 5 conversations at this time involve the word “banquet” in some fashion. They have already narrowed their options down and picked the best option for them and most likely picked the perfect person for their closest friends. They have already spent hours online looking for the perfect banquet dress in a color that looks amazing on them. Girls are simply waiting for you to, should I say it, man up. Take initiative, and don't be afraid of failure. There are plenty of other girls that need dates if you strike out on your first try. Don't be a “one and done.”
Review #2: Girls are just waiting to be asked to Banquet. And there is a huge possibility you made their list of “ Guys I want to go to banquet with.”
Moving on to some more helpful tips. Flowers are a great idea. Having a single red rose is super sweet and will melt the girl's heart, as will chocolate I might add. The rose, to the girl, means you have seriously thought about who you wanted to ask and you picked her, out of all the girls you know. Even if you just grabbed the rose two minutes before you asked her the thought still counts and you receive major props with her. Try to get to a relatively quiet place and simply ask “would you like to go to banquet with me, because I know I would love to go with you.” Adding this last statement melts her already melted heart. A win- win situation for you.
Review #3: Flowers, flowers, flowers. Don't forget the flower.
Or you could just ask her. Go for it and ask her. Forget the notes, flowers, and chocolate. Simply pull her aside and ask the question “Will you go to banquet with me.” Simple, easy, and effective. If it takes listening to some pump up music before you ask, go for it. If it means taking a day off of school to compose yourself and practice the “moment” a thousand times over, I'd recommend it. Don't wait. If you really want to ask a certain girl the probability of other guys wanting to ask her is high. If she has already hinted at going to banquet with you just ask her. Seriously.
Review #4: Just do it!
And if your guy friends recommend asking someone, listen and consider their advice but also make sure you truly want to go with that person. Peer pressure is only a positive thing in some cases. Also remember, the sooner you ask her the more likely you are to get a positive response from her, thus having a date to banquet. I wish you the best of luck and remember it's really not as stressful or terrifying as some people make it out to be. It's a simple question that takes twenty seconds tops, nothing to fret about. Just go for it.
Review #5: Just ask her, the worst thing that could happen is for her to say “no,” in which case there are many other girls out there just waiting to be asked.
- Kat Hartzler